Of Marriages
If you want to fix it - Netflix it ..!!
Khalil Gibran waxed eloquent on marriage
,”Let there be spaces between your togetherness.’
As we grew older in our marriage , spaces came in form of specs . My reading glasses, that is . My overly cleanliness -obsessed husband could never look into my eyes, for he would invariably find some dust on my. spectacles and without delay, would spring up to wash them, wipe them, followed by a little speech on how I must take care of my spectacles. The whole build - up to romance would fall flat diffused and deflated.
Whoever said.” love is blind” should look at me . In my case it is clear-sighted and supported by spectacles. So everything is clear, rational, practical and functional.
Spectacles and a spectacular anti-climax..
The barrier, the bane and the whole banishment ..
Welcome 2020..
Another specter entered in the space. And this time , a saviour to the idea of togetherness A specter but oxymoronically angelic and au courant ..
Netflix it is . The shock absorber, the connector, the pacifier, the space where we both sit together minding our own respective businesses , sharing an occasional laugh together or sharing a tense moment when story gets edgy .. he on his phone , me on mine . And Netflix in the frontline , togetherness of non-intrusion, non -interference. An evening spent in utter togetherness and a joyful non- interfering union.
I will choose to call it “soulitude”. ( you are with your soulmate sans his nagging and mansplaining and yet can experience “me” time. ) There is inclusion but without intrusion. Basically I can have the cake and well, eat it too… he won’t come to know , literally ..!!!!!!! He is absorbed in the plot ..
Watching the same tv, same programme, same episode episode,together without a bother.
On the same page but in each one in their own cage.
Knowing each other’s presence but not weighed down by it
Suits perfect to the times when people are juggling for mental and physical space.
Netflix brings the family together without effortlessly. no communication. No unsolicited advice no intrusion. Just sitting together with Netflix on.
Family which watches Netflix together, is the family which is going to be together. And tinsel town’s stories look more seminal, more consequential .. and having far more reaching consequences. And without argument , without blame game. We forgive each other.
Because we see life fully zoomed out .. and the hidden reality of shiny , starry lives comes to the fore and one zealously begins to treasure one’s own union with all its fights and altercations.
Well, the world is relative and is on Netflix. …